Manners

Break-ups are often, if not always, difficult and painful. The break-up of my decade-long relationship was no different. That said, I also believe that neither of us intended to purposely hurt the other person and thus, we were, for the most part, able to maintain civility and respect for one another throughout the process. As time has passed, we have remained friendly, although not in regular contact. Our communication has included a handful of coffees or lunches when exchanging possessions or documents as well as calls on birthdays and the occasional text or email to simply check in and say hello.

As mentioned in a previous entry, he has entered into another relationship but is still in regular contact with my parents. So perhaps it is fitting that my father was the one that told me that my ex is currently en route to Hawaii for his wedding this week. And, furthermore, that the bride-to-be is pregnant!!

Now, I can say with 100% certainty that I have absolutely no remorse at ending my relationship with him, nor do I feel any disappointment that it is not me. However, I cannot help but feel disappointed that he did not bother to call, email or even text me this significant and life-changing news. I understand that perhaps the thought of such a conversation may feel uncomfortable or awkward to him (not sure why, as he’s certainly shared information about her before – see earlier blog entry), but I still maintain that it is appropriate (and well, expected) that after spending such a significant part of our lives together, it would simply be “good manners” to communicate such important news directly to me.

So readers… your thoughts…am I expecting too much? Is this unrealistic??

Honey: Well, I am sincerely glad he has moved on and I do wish him`happiness and fulfillment in his life.

Lemon: Need I restate it? It’s just plain ol’ BAD MANNERS!